I have been re-reading Stephen Kuusisto's Planet of the Blind. It's not often I re-read novels and the second time has been as enjoyable and rewarding as the first. A wealth of description and showing which is a real treat.
My mother is now in a nursing home 200 miles away from me and I, it seems, must learn to let go.
It's a chance for me to get back to my life and get on with things again. It has been a very tumultuous time for so many reasons, but I keep reminding myself that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
I hope the past two months have made you all stronger.
Placing your mother there was difficult I'm sure. Just trust that's she's where she needs to be and others are looking after her.
ReplyDeleteYes I have absolutely, which has taken a huge weight off my shoulders, since I was afraid Mum would have the same diabolical treatment my father has had to endure and with her particular diagnosis would result in tragedy early on were she not cared for properly.
DeleteTry and take comfort from the fact that your mum is in good hands and being looked after. But I know how hard it can be to let go so don't rush it. Best wishes to you .
ReplyDeleteYes I have absolutely, which has taken a huge weight off my shoulders, since I was afraid Mum would have the same diabolical treatment my father has had to endure. We now know there are better nursing homes out there, so the lesson is do your research and choose the right one!
DeleteLovely Madeleine! It's great to see you back in blogworld! You'll always be there for your mum! Take care
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Bless you Old Kitty, thank you for your heartwarming encouragement as always :O) x
DeleteHope you and your mum are both doing well and things work out well for her.
ReplyDeleteThanks Nick, I am keeping in touch by letter and phone calls.
DeleteI'm sorry you and your mother have been through all that. It must be very difficult.
ReplyDeleteYes very exhausting emotionally, physically and psychologically and it has also shown me something about my own character.
DeleteI'm sorry! Just trust your mother is in good hands.
ReplyDeleteThanks Alex
DeleteI Know how hard it is to make those difficult decisions concerning parents, but the most important thing is that they are safe and are taken care of properly.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely. Now i must look out for my father whose situation requires some careful and urgent handling, too!
DeleteSorry about your mother. Must have been so hard. But it's good that you have that attitude - stay strong & soldier on.
ReplyDeleteThanks Trisha, yes they do say what doesn't kill us makes us stronger and the whole experience has certainly taught me lots.
DeleteI feel for you, Madeleine. As always, your positive outlook will keep you going. You have done your absolute best to ensure your mother's safety and well-being and there is nothing more you can expect from yourself than that. It's good to have you back. xx
ReplyDeleteBless Joanna, that is very kind of you to say. xx
DeleteLooks like you have been battling the god fight on many fronts. God to see you on the other side. I think I am too.
ReplyDeleteLove Gail
peace...
looks like i typed God rather than good, twice!! hmm :-)
DeleteThank you Gail, I feel I have been battling for a long time and this week has been a release, which is lovely.
DeleteAww...you poor thing. It does sound like a rough few months. I'm sorry. {{hugs}}
ReplyDeleteThanks Jennifer, hugs back.
DeleteHi Madeleine - I'm glad your mother is settled in a Nursing Home ... and that she will be peaceful there. 200 miles is a long way - particularly in this country .. I hope you and your siblings can get to visit reasonably often. I always felt relief when I left the Nursing Centre my mother was in ... yet I knew I was only down the road .. as long as she can go in her own time and with comfort ...
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts to you though ... now's the time to recoup your balance and acceptance of life as it is .. have a peaceful couple of weeks to recover ... with hugs - Hilary
Bless you Hilary, Yes the pressure has certainly been lifted and this last week has been more normal. Yesterday, however, I visited my dad in his nursing home and things were very disturbing for a number of reasons. I had to insist they called the GP and Dad was eventually taken to hospital. He has been sorted out and due to my quick action (and being there at the right time) managed to spare him the other complications of his recurring condition, which the home should have known about!
DeleteI have a sense of what you've been going through, based on my own parental experiences. It's emotionally very rough indeed! I wish you the best and was glad to see you back at my Limerick-Off again! Take care!
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Thanks Madeleine. Things are not quite normal just yet, hence my silence since this post, as my father has been in hospital, though I hope it is only for a very brief stay.
DeleteYes I thought I would try taxing my brain with a Limerick, yesterday ;O)
I've been in my shell because of my own issues, and when I stick my head out . . .
ReplyDeleteI know I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, but take care of yourselves. It's the only way to ensure you'll be able to care for others. Oh, and welcome back.
Thanks Snowball. I came back and then had to go away again because my Dad needed me. Hope to be back again now. Welcome back to you too.
DeleteHello Maddy. It's great to hear from you again. It is wonderful to hear you're starting to get your life back together again. I hope your health has improved also. We all miss you!
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